Keeping a healthy balance between character and ego is often one of the hardest things to do in life. Most of the time, it leads to tense dialogues (or even monologues) as well as disturbed social relationships. A person has to really be able to understand your way of thinking in order not to misinterpret your words or even your reactions. And this is usually where the going gets tough.
I've always been the one to shy away from certain conversations, involving but not limited to criticism and opinion giving. That's mainly because I tend to snob what one of the first things people invoke during an argument. Most of them call it "common sense". It is a wicked thing. People unknowingly hide some of their biggest virtues behind that term, just to sway you towards a mindset commonly used by the mindless masses.
Lately, I have figured out that the only way out of this is to take the gloves off and -mind you- I own many a pair.
In the end, people should enjoy you for who you are, not for who you encourage them to be. Everybody wants to hear flattering lies from time to time and I have recently decided not to play along. So far this attitude has served me well with no major misunderstandings within a social context. What happens when it moves on to a professional level is another matter though.
People will judge you for many different things nowadays. Not recognising their selves in you is one of the most common. The question I raise is this; Is it better to sometimes try to imitate them in order to achieve a condescending node from a said person? We tend to love people who agree with us and if you care about someone, is there truly a better way to force him to be lovable than to brainwash him into thinking like you?
Probably not. Maybe it is better not to be loved at all. Maybe we only need ourselves in this world after all.
We were to designed to be different anyway, why compromise that for such a vague value as "love"? Everyone loves on different terms anyway which in my book makes it kind of impossible to genuinely understand each other. And this problem stems from our egos mainly, but grows rapidly as we age and become more stubborn. Think about it; We start life with two people who genuinely love us, but in the process of growing up society poisons our mind with its unhealthy criteria of what love is. Some of us end up doubting even the most sacred relationship a person has, that of his parents.
For me, there is only one way to combat this. Hang on to your values as a person. The more different you are from others, the more good it will do you. Keep your distance from fake emotions and have second thoughts about everything that touches you in a humane level. Some times the heart is a really terrible liar after all.
People will judge you for many different things nowadays. Not recognising their selves in you is one of the most common. The question I raise is this; Is it better to sometimes try to imitate them in order to achieve a condescending node from a said person? We tend to love people who agree with us and if you care about someone, is there truly a better way to force him to be lovable than to brainwash him into thinking like you?
Probably not. Maybe it is better not to be loved at all. Maybe we only need ourselves in this world after all.
We were to designed to be different anyway, why compromise that for such a vague value as "love"? Everyone loves on different terms anyway which in my book makes it kind of impossible to genuinely understand each other. And this problem stems from our egos mainly, but grows rapidly as we age and become more stubborn. Think about it; We start life with two people who genuinely love us, but in the process of growing up society poisons our mind with its unhealthy criteria of what love is. Some of us end up doubting even the most sacred relationship a person has, that of his parents.
For me, there is only one way to combat this. Hang on to your values as a person. The more different you are from others, the more good it will do you. Keep your distance from fake emotions and have second thoughts about everything that touches you in a humane level. Some times the heart is a really terrible liar after all.
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