Boasting; How do i win?

I hate people with an inflated self-esteem.Seriously, i do. There are so many people boasting about their skills, their knowledge, their ability to assess any given situation,their intelligence and so on and so forth. Granted, many people do not even do it on purpose when they boast about,lets say how kind they are towards others during a conversation,yet i feel angry nonetheless. Maybe it is my low self esteem that hinders my correct judgment and maybe i should probably not even care. I do however, because i happen to know that for every good thing you boast about, there are another that many bad things you are not particularly proud of which however you somehow always fail to mention. Recently i had this conversation with my sister (who takes pleasure in boasting) and i was trying to convince her that as a human being (thus faulty by nature) she tends to often exaggerate about her virtues in a futile effort to ....uhm... advertise herself to others in a given interaction, me included. I was not actually accusing her of anything, yet she somehow managed to take offense at it and the whole thing concluded in a lousy mixture of yells and shouts.And here i am wondering; why can't we people understand two really simple facts? First and foremost, it is far more rewarding when someone praises your character on his own rather than you telling him.I mean, what's the point, what is there to gain? And if he is a loved person, you don't even need to mention anything, as (s)he probably already knows your strong points.And the second thing the vast majority of people fail to understand; for every ounce of "skill" you posess in doing something, there are thousands of people in the world who can do it better than you.*Sigh* When will people come to understand that they are not the small sweet warm centre of the god damn UNIVERSE and that not everything rotates and evolves around their big phat egos? (pun intended, big sis :) )
Moving on and concluding.Once you get caught in a conversation with such a person who keeps telling you of how kind, good, caring, loving, sensitive he is, you can't win.It is a long, one way road to boredom and wasted hours of your life.So do yourself a favor and stand up from your comfy chair, shake his hand goodbye and pretend you are busy.Do what i always fail to do because you know.I am toο sensitive and caring to insult others....oh wait. Yeah whatever.As i said, it's a lose-lose situation.

The glum (and modest) guy out.

The Balance,continued.

I have been spammed with countless, numerous e-mails to explain the Balance a tad more.People who read my thoughts were impressed and want me to explain and analyze it further.Or at least that's what i want to happen.And if you payed any attention to my previous post, stranger, then you know the Balance will make it happen.So, stop reading now and go send me an e-mail asking me to continue this post.

Great. After reading your e-mails, i feel i have to elaborate a bit more on my thoughts.As i was saying in my previous post the Balance is a wicked theory.The good and bad things scale simultaneously with your will for them to happen.Let me explain. For instance, let's suppose you got the following four facts and needs going on in your life these days; 1) you are alone in life so you really could use a girlfriend. 2) You also would like to buy that new LCD TV for your room since it's Christmas but you are 500 Euros short of it's price (4000E) so can't buy it right now,but it's ok because hey, you can live without it. 3) Your mother is unfortunately really sick and is hospitalized in a clinic. 4) You have a chance to win a DVD player in a competition you participated in, some days ago.Pay attention now; If you really want (1) to happen, i can guarantee that it will happen soon-ish. However, when it does happen, (3) will also end up in a bad way for you.If you are a stupid person though, and are more concerned with (4), congratulations you will win the DVD, but in compensation, i doubt you will find these 500E to buy a new LCD TV before the next Christmas. Now let's say you somehow have a very good friend who decides to buy you that TV as a present. The same person will "force" you to fail in (4). And if by any chance your mother is so ill that there is nothing for the doctors to do in order to save her...well....have fun with your new girlfriend who you will meet in a short time.See how it goes? Sounds quite complicated, but if you believe in this pattern, you will find out that there are things you can do to tip the scales of balance towards your real needs.For example, let's say you met this new girl yesterday and she is AWESOME, but in the morning while you were browsing the Internet, you stumbled upon this blog.Guess what. Do NOT try to see this girl again, until (3) is resolved. This way you are forcing your relationship with the girl to go bad, so that you get a more favorable treatment with your mother.See the pattern here? I believe you can master the technique if you try it for some time and of course if you are willing to believe in my theory.That's all i have to say about this matter, half of the fun in balance is thinking of it yourself and practicing with your life.Go now stranger, nothing to more to read here.Shut down your PC and go spend money somewhere.As for me, i have to stop typing and go visit my father in clinic...oh wait.